Your child is your responsibility, stop blaming others for their bad behaviour.
I am sick of the growing trend with parents who are insisting that their golden child is perfect and can do no wrong, and it is the teacher’s fault that their grades or personalities are not up to scratch.
It is time these parents take a good hard look in the mirror and realise that they are not helping their child accept responsibility for their own failures when they, as parents, are blaming someone else for it.
If your child is failing in class or in life, you need to take responsibility for your role in it, as well as the role with which your child played in his/her own failure.
What it comes down to is this, as parents, your success or failure as a person, is heavily weighted on your child/children’s level of success or failure at school. If you’ve got yourself a dud academically, socially, or even athletically, you then see this as a reflection on your failure as a person. And naturally, you are nothing but fantastic as a parent, so, it must be someone else’s fault that your child is not performing. And hence, the teacher’s at fault.
Grow up! That’s all I can say. Take responsibility for your life, and understand your child more.
When your child is badly behaved, it’s probably because you’ve got yourself a brat. And you want to know who’s to blame for that? Most likely you are. You have failed to discipline them, you have failed to teach them manners, you have failed to teach them how to be good people. You are the ones who have failed your children, not their teachers.
When your child isn’t doing their homework and failing to live up to their potential, it is not the teachers’ fault for not making your kid smarter, it is your kid’s fault for being slack and cutting corners. It is your fault as a parent for allowing your child to not care about their education.
When your kid is being disrespectful towards you and other people, it is not the school’s fault for not teaching kids proper manners, it is your fault as a parent for allowing them to get away with such disgusting behaviour.
When your kid is bullying others and is a menace to society, short of them being a psychopath, it is you not intervening and telling them that their behaviour is wrong.
It’s really as simple as that. You are responsible for your child’s behaviour, not the school. Sure, sometimes, your kids are just d*cks and you wish you had the foresight to stop at one. But hey, that’s not how the dice rolled. So, suck it up and start disciplining your children.
I was afraid of misbehaving as a teenager because I knew that there were ramifications from my parents, and this is true for a lot of us Gen Xers. We knew that we could not get away with bad report cards, we had to try our best, it was in our personal interest to stay on the good side of our parents. We also knew that it was important to speak to people with respect, because our parents would box our ears otherwise.
But, as Xers become parents, they have started to cotton wool their children, and are so precious with them that they just let these brats run wild.
You wanted to have kids, so, be a parent and start parenting them. Take responsibility for yourselves and stop putting the blame on teachers for what is clearly your duty.
Kids will do as you do, you lead by example, and when you speak ill of their teachers in front of them, they will in turn think less of their teachers and show them disrespect. They will then carry this attitude of entitlement throughout their lives. It is one thing to have self-esteem, it is another to have a sense of entitlement and disrespecting anyone and everyone.
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